You know that guy.
The person that everyone in the restaurant can hear talking over their own conversations at their tables. The one who loves to talk about…himself. How good he is at just about everything. How the company would be lost without him. The stories of how he saved the day.
Wow. That’s tiring.
On top of boasting about themselves to the point of ad nauseum, they’re typically what I deem a term from the old show Seinfeld; they’re a “Loud-talker”. They have one volume for their voice and it’s loud. Everyone at the table is left with the choice of looking rude and interrupting or quietly listening to this dude talk about himself for a ridiculous amount of time. “Me, me, me!”…it’s the thread of every topic.
You have that friend.
Your friend who (bless their heart) loves to post selfies way too often on social media. I’m all for posting fun pics, but there’s a line for taking too many of yourself, wouldn’t you agree? Whether they realize it or not, there is only one message that’s being communicated… “Me, me, me!”
None of us wants to be that person. Yet, even though it may look differently than the examples I mentioned, we are at times that person. We’re human. A part of the human race. And it is indeed a race. A race to talk about myself and make myself look better than everyone else.
I Corinthians 13 gives us a hint about what we should be talking about. It reminds us that life isn’t all about me. “Love…doesn’t boast.” The opposite of boasting in ourselves is building up – get this – others.
What if, when we receive a compliment this week at our jobs, we choose not to brag on ourselves, but give some of the credit away? What if we acknowledge that it wasn’t just us that made things happen. There’s a team of people working together. What do you lose? You only gain the respect of your co-workers/employees and they would be even more encouraged and motivated to work that hard next time.
Married friends, what if we do the opposite for our spouse as well? What if we jump on that chance to celebrate what our husband or wife is so incredible at – with sincerity! (especially if your spouse is around and can overhear you!) They may blush from your encouraging words, but don’t you think that would make them feel valued and loved?
What if when we sit down at our next meeting or lunch appointment, we make the conversation about them. We ask how they’re doing. What’s going on in their life. How is it with their soul.
What if we dust off a pad of paper or a notecard and grab a pen? Write a handwritten note to someone and encourage them. I’m confident it would make them smile…maybe even bring a tear.
And definitely help them experience love.
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” – Proverbs 25:11
Leslee has been married to her elementary school sweetheart, Jeff, for 21 years. They have two children: Lauren and Garrison and one adorable dog, Potato. Their family loves taking walks, traveling, going to Disney World and just about anything that allows them to spend time together.